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LLD is a space in which dykes can come to fuck, to look for sex, and to cruise, and to do so in ways which go against cis- and hetero-patriarchal modes of interacting. We are all perverts and that is why we do this.
If you feel that you belong in this space, then come and see how you feel within it. Do not question anyone else’s right to be in the space, so long as they are acting in line with our values.
Do not assume you know someone else’s gender or pronouns. Being a dyke is, in many ways, inherently about being gender-non-conforming, and people should and will always present in non-standard ways at our events.
Be considerate, and do not ask other members overly invasive questions about their gender, sexuality, or body.
Be aware of the sorts of power that you hold and how that may affect how you move within and interact with the club.
Do not pressure others into using substances, including alcohol or tobacco.
Some of our members will wish to keep their participation in the club and Leatherdyke culture private or isolated to the club itself, please respect this.
Do not attend meetings or events if you know that something is significantly affecting your ability to do so safely.
Do not attend meetings or events if you reasonably believe that you have a virus (e.g. cold, Covid-19) that could be transmitted to other attendees.
Our Code of Conduct.
Our values.
London Leatherdykes is centred around a series of values. If you want to be a member, your behaviour is expected to be in line with these.
We prioritise bodily autonomy. We aim for acceptance, or at least neutrality, when it comes to bodies, mental and physical health, and sex, kink and relationships. Fetishisation, however, is not acceptable.
We treat each other with dignity and respect. While no space can be totally safe, it is the intention that this space will be anti-racist and anti-ableist and free from ageism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, and all other discrimination, and will be non-judgemental.
We value difference and seek to address barriers that create and contribute to marginalisation. We want to create a space which particularly welcomes members of our community that experience intersectional marginalisation, for example QTIPOC, disabled people, addicts, older people, butches and femmes, transmisogyny-affected people, neurodivergent people, sex workers, fat people and working class people.
We look out for one another. It is the responsibility of each of us to take the actions available to us to protect others from harm, including, but not limited to, in relation to the transmission of infection and risk-aware play practices. In line with this, masking is welcome and testing before attending any events is encouraged.
We hold each other accountable. We aim to act with transparency, owning our mistakes as opportunities to learn and grow.
Everyone is free to hold their own opinions, but should also expect to face consequences when expressing these if they hurt or harm another person.
We are all, always, learning, and will make mistakes. It is how we react to discovering we have made a mistake that matters. A sincere and real apology acknowledges and understands the harm done (whether intentional or not), and shows a commitment to not repeating the behaviour.
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